If you can’t walk those kinds of things out when you are dating a person, if you can’t carry that heavy load, then let them go so they can find someone who can.
There are very wonderful, compassionate and kind people who have been gifted by God to do just that.
The dating process should be a time of discovery and analysis as to whether or not a certain person would make a good lifetime mate.
And make no mistake about it – a person’s history can be a major factor in determining how they will handle their future relationships.
The dating process is about finding out about someone, the choices they’ve made and who they are. ” It’s not about refusing to forgive a person’s shortcomings or judging someone harshly for their mistakes.
You can forgive them (God certainly does), but it doesn’t mean you have to marry them.
It just makes you honest when you realize that you aren’t comfortable in dealing with the baggage of someone’s past.
As people of the Christian faith – a faith that stresses hope for our future, despite the failings of our past – we oftentimes deliberately ignore a person’s past when deciding on a mate.This parody of e Harmony is very clever and speaks to anyone who's been single in the 21st century or anyone else who has a TV and has seen those annoying e Harmony commercials. Warren in the spot says, "Push that crushing feeling of loneliness under the corners of your mind."Happiness isn't for everybody and as one man in this commercial reminds us, "All my friends are married and I don't want to feel left out, so it works."And, really, isn't that the cornerstone of any good relationship?These types of things should be revealed at the front end.It’s not fair to be 18 months, two years, or five years into a marriage and for your spouse to be struggling with issues they didn’t even know existed in you.